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MY ex-girlfriend is furious that I’m over her and getting on with my life.

I’ve lost weight, changed my hair and bought some new clothes. I’ve found a new job and have taken up rock climbing.

She was the one who dumped me because she said I was boring and ugly and was bringing her down. I cried for ages after she left.

But then a friend said I should take her criticisms on board and change my life. So I did. I drew up a list and forced myself to become a new man.

Now I’m in trouble with her for bouncing back too quickly. I just can’t win.

We live in a small town, so I keep seeing her. The other day she came up in the pub and had a go at me for looking too good!

She said that I insulted her because I never made any kind of effort when we were a couple. What is her problem?

JANE SAYS: In many ways I can understand her frustration.

When you were together it sounds as if you didn’t make much of an effort with your looks or your life.

Now you’re single and finally putting yourself out there. Not only have you smartened yourself up, but you’ve changed your life too. Good for you.

You’ve put everything in perspective and worked out how to move on.

I suspect breaking up with her gave you a much-needed kick up the backside. Maybe being together had made you lazy, complacent or a little down in the dumps?

If she approaches you again, simply tell her that you’re sorry she’s cross but there’s nothing to be gained from being spiteful or resentful.

She now needs to follow your lead in starting again.