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HOW do I get my friend’s partner to stop sending me smutty pictures?
He’s always been a bit of joker, but I feel he’s going too far this time.
About a month ago he dropped round a drill for my partner to borrow. He was wearing a pair of tight denim shorts and I stupidly made a comment about them.
He asked me if I’d like to see what was underneath. I waved him away, but a few minutes later my phone pinged and I was shocked to see a snap of his privates.
I didn’t know what to do so, stupidly again, I replied with an exclamation mark. Obviously he viewed that as a green light and I’ve received loads more since.
I’m mortified. Now, any time we all go out in a group he winks and snuggles up to me as if we’ve got some dark secret.
My friend and my partner would hit the roof if they knew what was going on. Of course, I’d never dream of sending back a picture of myself, although this guy has asked me to. Why am I such an idiot? JANE SAYS: You’re not an idiot. You’ve done nothing to encourage this unwelcome behaviour, but you must shut it down right now.
Don’t feel intimidated or guilty because this person has nothing over you. He chose to send the images.
Tell him to leave you alone. Then speak to your partner and explain the stress you’ve been going through. If he fails to be sympathetic, then stand your ground.
Maybe that one comment about the denim shorts was enough to trigger this man’s barrage, but how were you to know he was capable of such a sext storm?
I get the impression that he’s a risk-taker, troublemaker and exhibitionist.
I wonder if your friend actually knows what she’s dealing with? Unless you expose him and spill the beans then he will continue to have a hold over you.