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MY daughter and her boyfriend don’t believe in marriage.

They think relationships should be open and flexible.

But that doesn’t stop them wanting an expensive “love ceremony” that we are being asked to finance.

They are planning this non-wedding next spring.

Apparently there will be readings, 100 guests, a meal and dancing.

They will declare their mutual love, for a minimum of two years. I’ve never heard anything so daft in my life.

Basically, she wants the chance to show off and wear a big dress without the responsibility.

My husband and I have told her to organise her own big party, if that’s what she wants, but we’ve been told we’re unromantic and mean. Are we?

JANE SAYS: You and your husband are at liberty to spend your money how you like.

If you don’t like the idea of this “love ceremony” and don’t wish to finance it, then stand your ground.

Tell your daughter you love her dearly and respect her decisions, but don’t feel this is the best use of your money.

What happens if this relationship doesn’t work out and she moves onto someone new? Would she expect you to finance more of these ceremonies?

She needs to look at her personal budget and think again.

Of course, you will attend if invited, but don’t be guilt-tripped into anything.