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EVERY so often my man goes rogue.
He starts behaving erratically and then disappears out of my life.
I have no way of getting in touch with him and worry myself sick.
Then he comes back and carries on as if nothing has happened. I ask him where he’s been and he looks at me – all ashamed – and whispers: “I’ve been a naughty boy again.”
By “naughty boy” he means he’s been off with another woman. In the six years we’ve been together he’s slept with my friends, relatives and even my ex-boss.
Everyone thinks he’s a character – a great laugh. He’s larger than life and charm personified, but I’m so tired of him messing me about.
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At the moment he’s very twitchy and I fear he’s about to bolt. He’s become very friendly with a woman from his work and I fear he’s got her in his sights.
Several times recently he’s come home late reeking of cheap perfume. He insults my intelligence and breaks my heart with his flimsy excuses.
I have to admit that I knew he was a heartbreaker when we first got together. He was living with my neighbour, but I managed to seduce him on a boozy night out.
He came back to my place and has been here – off and on – ever since. He’s the love of my life and the only man I’ll ever want, but I can never fully relax when he’s out of the house.
Last year he walked out on me on Christmas Eve and I didn’t see him again until January 4. He was with a widow who gave him £2,000 for his company.
This year he swears that we’ll have a fantastic time, but what if he darts off with his colleague and I’m left looking like a Christmas pudding? I’m 27 to his 43. JANE SAYS: You’re in the prime of your life, yet you’re allowing an untrustworthy, selfish man to break your spirit.
It’s clear to me that your man always has his eye on the prize. If he can make some money, have a laugh and muck around for a while, then he’s out the door like a shot. You have to help yourself by finally seeing him for the rogue and the cheat he is.
If you view him as something of a maverick and a challenge, then you’re deluded.
Perhaps you think that you can tame him and bring him to heel, but you need to forget about that.
Be honest with yourself. You’re never going to change him because he’s having a ball.
He has the best of both worlds with stability and warmth with you and excitement with his other lovers. I bet he can’t believe his luck. I suggest you step back and simply take stock of this situation.
Do you really want to live like this? What about marriage and children in the future? Why him when you could be with any man you fancy?
Start trusting your instincts and open your eyes. If he really is going to leave you lonely again this Christmas, then suggest he goes now on your terms.
I urge you to forget about him and start making alternative plans before any more of your life passes you by.