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MY vicious former lover appears determined to destroy me.
She is beyond angry that I’m not prepared to live with her now that I’m single again.
She’s threatening to send my boss incriminating pictures of us having sex in his flat.
And she’s warning that she’ll forward X-rated shots to my parents, post information on social media and contact every girl I ever date for the rest of my life.
I feel like such a mug for ever getting involved with her in the first place.
She used to live in the flat below me. We hooked up when I lost my job and then started working from home.
Raunchy
My long-term girlfriend of the time was working for a multinational company and was travelling all over the world.
I was bored and angry and fell into an affair with my feisty neighbour. What can I say? She was sexy, naughty and fun.
Then I got a job working for an estate agent, which gave me access to different properties.
Whenever my girlfriend was at home, I’d take my lover to an empty flat for sex.
We drank, made love and took raunchy pictures of each other.
Then everything went pearshaped. My girlfriend found out about us (I suspect my lover actually sent her a poison pen letter).
My girlfriend left me without saying “goodbye” and my lover moved into a house left to her by her late aunt. Now she’s furious because I’m not interested in creating a new life with her. I’ve seen her for what she really is and I don’t like the woman.
I can’t blame her for ruining my relationship, I did that for myself, but she certainly didn’t help.
Now I’m being threatened with all sorts of rubbish and my life is in freefall.
How do I get the angriest woman in the world off my back? JANE SAYS: Unfortunately you did play with fire and ended up getting burnt.
Your long-term girlfriend has left you behind and you are hating yourself right now.
But nothing gives your ex-lover the right to blackmail or threaten you. Of course she’s angry and feels let down, but sending explicit pictures and information is against the law.
She needs to understand that if she does send anything to your boss or parents, or posts anything personal on social media, then you will report her to the police.
And you have to mean that. She has to realise that you’re not mucking about and that you will not allow yourself to be bullied or pushed around. Apologise if she feels you have given her mixed messages – and then get on with rebuilding your life.
I’m glad you’ve finally woken up and decided to take back control.
For a while, you behaved like a fool – but now you’re coming back down to earth again.
If you are worried that your boss is going to find out about your sexual escapades through another route, then is your conscience telling you to get in first and confess all? And is your wronged long-term ex-girlfriend also due an apology?