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I SHOULD never have agreed to a date with my next-door neighbour.

It was a disaster and now we’re at war and he’s bombarding me with insulting texts.

I keep waking up and finding rubbish in my front garden and dog mess on my car.

I’m convinced he’s targeting me because I refused to have sex with him after a pint and a fried chicken takeaway. I’m not usually intimidated or scared by anyone, but he’s really freaking me out because he’s unpredictable and creepy.

I accepted his invitation only because I felt sorry for him. His 32-year-old wife was killed in a car crash last May. She was a lovely woman and I know he misses her dreadfully. He’d been badgering me to go out since last September.

In the end I ran out of excuses and reluctantly accepted his invitation for a “night on the town”. It was horrible. He was embarrassing and rude and screamed at me for being “ungrateful” for not wanting to stay the night.

JANE SAYS: He has to know you won’t be bullied or intimidated. It’s upsetting that he finds himself a widow, but nothing gives him the right to send you insulting messages.

Warn him you will go to the police or a solicitor if he contacts you again. As for the rubbish in the front garden, you can’t accuse him of anything until you have proof. Keep a diary from now on. Take a picture and then note the date and time when any rubbish turns up.

If he’s playing silly games, he will inevitably slip up.

He sounds like a man in crisis. He’s lost and angry and needs professional help.

Does he have relatives or friends you could talk to? People need to know that you are worried and concerned about his mental health.

Maybe if I speak to Abbie… perhaps she’ll understand that Mark MUST be with his family at Christmas It’s gone 6pm… surely she should have left by now Any woman would understand that a father must be with his kids at Christmas… it doesn’t matter about me… just the kids That’s my chance to appeal to Abbie gone… now I don’t know what to do