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MY bloke has confessed to spending £2,500 of our money on his lover’s Christmas presents.
I’m beyond furious. Not only has he bought the old boot a gold bracelet, but he has also splashed out on cosmetics and hundreds of pounds worth of gift vouchers.
My partner claims it’s a pay-off. He says he’s planning to finally dump her in the new year and the vouchers will help her through 2019. But I’m beginning to think I can’t trust a single word he says.
For a start, it was only by accident I found this stash in the first place. Ironically, I was looking for a safe place to hide his presents when I came upon a mysterious carrier bag under the bed.
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Naturally, I pulled it out and looked through it. I could not believe my eyes. There were fistfuls of vouchers for restaurants, coffee shops and supermarkets.
I went straight to our little study area where I logged onto online banking and discovered over £2,500 has been spent on our various debit and credit cards.
I rang him at work and ordered him straight home. At first he tried to lie and said the bracelet was for me and the other bits for his mum and family members.
But it did not take me long to break him down. The thing is, I thought that he split up with his mistress last summer.
He told me she was moving away and he was never going to see her again. To discover he has been creeping into her bed for the past five months is devastating.
I’m the first to admit our relationship has never been perfect. He started his fling after he found out I was screwing my ex-boss.
I dumped my ex-boss after we agreed to give our relationship a second go. But it’s three years down the line and his clingy mistress has never really gone away. JANE SAYS: Your partner has to hear you can’t go on like this.
Admittedly, your relationship has been difficult over the years. From your affair to his retaliation, it’s all been a bit of a mess. But the new year is looming and you need to know where you stand. Is he ever going to finish with this woman?
Or, more to the point, is she going to let him go?
The problem is that if she feels she is owed a future with your man, then she could stick around for ever.
How do you feel about that? You’re upset because you thought they’d broken up last summer.
Yet he has spent another five months secretly carrying on sleeping with her. Now he has to decide where everyone goes from here.
My take is that he needs to return and get a refund on whatever he can, and then repay the money he’s used into your joint accounts.
Then you need to confide in trusted friends and family, or even take yourself away, in order to clear your head and look to the future.
Sadly, if you and he are cheating, lying and still running around in circles, then is this relationship healthy or viable? Would you actually be happier apart?