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MY girlfriend used to be a guy. She completed her sex change two years ago, before we became a committed couple.

She is the most considerate, beautiful person I’ve ever met.

But her family never accepted her transition and she’s been estranged from them for 10 years.

My family know everything about her. But my brother refuses to be in the same building.

I find this very hurtful. He has put up a barrier, even though he’s never even met her.

He’s a 26-year old barista who serves all sorts of people in his trendy coffee shop, yet will not give us a break.

He’s now refusing to visit mum’s for Christmas because we will be there.

What is his problem? JANE SAYS: Who knows what’s going on in your brother’s mind?

He could be jealous of your relationship, conflicted about his own sexuality or just plain bigoted and unpleasant.

Just because he works in a trendy coffee bar doesn’t automatically make him enlightened.

I urge you to put him out of your minds. Enjoy Christmas with the rest of the family and take each day as it comes.

Rejoice in the fact that you have lots of people around you who love and respect you and the woman you have chosen to be with.

Life is short. If you’ve found a wonderful person to love and settle down with, you are blessed.

Hopefully, down the line, you can be reconciled with your brother and your partner can be reconciled with her family.

But it’s just not worth sweating over people who choose to take a particular stance for no fathomable reason.