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BEING with my girlfriend is such hard work. Our relationship is like a second job.
If I don’t text her the second I wake up, then I get an ear-bashing.
If I fail to call, text or message her at least 30 times a day, I’m told I’m selfish and cruel.
I thought that being in love was supposed to be all cuddly, warm and nice, but I don’t think I’ve ever been more miserable in my life. My brother is married to a fab woman and always says: “When it’s good, it’s easy.” Well, my relationship couldn’t be more tricky and complicated.
When we’re together (about four times a week) we go out, see friends and have a decent sex life, but she expects too much from me. I earn just about enough to live on, but I can’t afford the fancy clubs and bars that she’d like us to visit.
I’m sick of being told I’m pathetic and a disappointment when I’m just a normal bloke who seems to get on pretty well with family and old friends – yet I seem to be a disaster area as far as she’s concerned. JANE SAYS: Your brother is right – a healthy, mutually respectful relationship shouldn’t be this tough.
I get the impression your girlfriend is discontented and immature. Is she perfect herself? No, of course she isn’t.
Nothing gives her the right to pick holes in you and make your life intolerable. You need to tell her you can’t – and won’t – go on like this. If your best isn’t good enough, what more can you do to make her smile?
Sadly, if she’s looking for something you can’t give, you and she need to accept that you’re never going to make each other happy.
What you can’t do is allow her to continually put you down and doubt yourself.
If you absolutely know that you’re not suited, then start having more faith in yourself, be strong and end this misery.