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MY girl lives in her own little world. We have only been living together for a year, but she has already stopped making an effort.

She slobs around all weekend in her pyjamas, rarely bothering to shower or change.

She claims that her hairdressing job is exhausting, so never fancies going out.

Instead she plays games on her phone or texts her mum and cousins.

Any time we have sex it’s because she’s ovulating and thinks she might want a baby, but I just don’t see her having energy for motherhood.

My family can’t believe the change in her. When we first met she was glamorous and fun. These days she’s boring and flabby – like an old neutered cat.

JANE SAYS: Your girlfriend may have settled into a snug and cosy world of her own, but if you’re not happy, then she needs to know.

Lots of us feel like wrapping up warm and going to ground at this time of year, but she has to assure you that the spring and summer will be better.

She has to promise that you’ll do things, see people and plan exciting adventures – otherwise what is the point in being alive? Tapping away at her mobile phone for hours isn’t doing her any good because she’s becoming boring and insular.

Remind her that you only have so much patience. Does she still care about you? Make the point that moving in together didn’t signal the end of effort; this is just the beginning. If she’s genuinely unhappy or has lost her spark then she must start being honest about that too – and get the professional help that she needs.