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MY older sister has taken over my life.

Suddenly she’s in my flat, she’s out with my friends and snogging guys I like.

When she left her husband I promised to support her.

I encouraged her to leave him because he was a bully and a gambler. I helped her to stand on her own two feet and to embrace her newfound freedom, but I didn’t expect her to cramp my style.

I can’t move without her asking me where I’m going and what I’m doing.

She expects to be involved in every aspect of my life and when I’m working, then she’s out with my mates herself.

The latest is that she’s joining three of my closest pals on a spa weekend. I can’t go because my son is at a concert, but my sister is taking my place and going along for the laughs.

How dare she barge me out of the way. JANE SAYS: Your sister needs to hear that she’s driving you mad.

Tell her how you’re feeling right now.

I worry that you’re becoming more eaten up inside each day.

Leaving her bullying ex was the right thing to do, but she needs to get on with the business of developing her own life – not simply stealing yours.

Suggest she starts looking for her own pad, finds stimulating work and branches out on her own terms.

Naturally, you and she will always be close because you’re sisters, but that doesn’t mean you have to live in each other’s pockets.