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MY partner has been paying other women for “personal services”.
I recently found a credit card receipt for £200 in his jacket pocket.
He broke down and confessed that he splashes out on “company” whenever he’s feeling under pressure at work.
He goes for foot worship, kissing and girlfriend experiences. Apparently there’s a discreet agency run by a woman who understands his needs. She provides him with girls who accompany him to restaurants and bars for chats and flirting and older women who are happy to snog him and massage his ugly trotters.
He says he’s sorry and that he loves me, but needs the attention of others to relieve the stress of a demanding job.
He says if he didn’t have this outlet then he wouldn’t be able to carry on working for his demanding boss and we’d have to sell this house and downsize to a flat. I’ve asked him to stop betraying me, but he says he can’t. Can I stay with him knowing what he gets up to behind my back? JANE SAYS: Surely it’s your job, as his partner, to provide a shoulder to cry on?
Why can’t you accompany him to those bars and restaurants? A lot of people in highly stressful jobs look for relief and an outlet, but why didn’t he come to you first? After all, kissing is a very intimate act. Would he have told you about his paid-for company if you hadn’t found that receipt? Or did he deliberately leave it where he knew you would find it?
If this relationship is to be saved – and you’re willing to forgive him – then should he think about leaving his job and downsizing anyway?
I don’t like the way he’s almost threatening you with a smaller place as an excuse for his behaviour.
Ultimately, whether you can forgive and move on is entirely your call.