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MY partner has asked to put our relationship on hold while he sorts his head out – whatever that means.

He’s currently staying with a mate and, from what I can work out, is going out drinking and partying. He swears he isn’t interested in splitting with me completely, but needs this time for himself. I’m utterly devastated. I just didn’t see it coming. One minute we were talking about a holiday, the next he was telling me that he was off.

I thought we were perfect for each other. I messaged him the other day and he said that he might be willing to meet up with me in September to see how we both feel. Sep-blinking-tember! My family say that I’d be mad to let him have the whole summer off.

I’m so torn. My brain is telling me to dump him while my heart is pleading for more time. What is going on with him?

JANE SAYS: September is seven months away. Are you seriously going to sit around twiddling your thumbs until then?

Your folks are right: you cannot waste another minute waiting in the wings. Accept that your ex has taken the coward’s way out by simply running off to a mate’s place without finishing with you properly and start making your own plans.

There is obviously a lot more to this situation than meets the eye. If he has a new lover, or simply fancies being a single man again, then he’s moved on and isn’t coming back.

You deserve better, so tell him that you’re done. Stop winding yourself up by looking at his social media and begin the big climb back. Don’t allow him to insult you again.