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MY sons (16 and 17) were such gorgeous little boys, but now they are a major challenge.

They push me to the limit almost every day.

From their mess and rudeness to their reluctance to do any homework, I’m tearing my hair out here.

I hate the way they talk and swagger and the way they’re constantly on those rotten phones.

The eldest demands money and goes out without telling me when he’ll be back. I can’t go to sleep until I hear the front door bang and imagine all sorts of horrible things.

My husband tells me I’m daft for worrying, but I can’t help how I feel.

During rows I’m told I’m a terrible mother.

I’m accused of being mean and a failure for not being richer. Yet the younger still takes a teddy to bed at night. Work that one out.

JANE SAYS: Keep talking to your boys, let them know they are still loved and valued.

Most teens are challenging at some point. It’s all part of kicking back and growing up. Of course you’re not a bad parent.

You’re concerned and you care, so don’t lose faith in yourself or your judgment.

Teens are notorious for being up one moment and down the next, but it’s vital not to let a tricky situation get out of hand.

Talk to your boys when you’re all feeling calmer and more approachable.

Tell them you will always be there for them, but they have to meet you in the middle – especially over safety and locations.

It’s a tough old world out there for young men and they are vulnerable.

If you do feel you need some support, the NSPCC website is excellent.