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I HAVEN’T seen my new boyfriend since I told him about my saucy past.
He and I were sitting up in bed together with a bottle of Cava after a steamy evening of sex.
We were relaxed, chilled out and telling each other our naughtiest secrets.
He asked if I’d ever done anything really racy. I confessed that I’d once had a threesome with my best friend and her bloke.
He nearly choked on his bubbles and begged me to tell him all about it, so I did.
I gave him all the gory details and he howled with laughter. But then he asked if I was always faithful to my ex-partner.
Rampant
I confessed that I had secretly cheated on him for a few weeks before we finally split up and an odd look came across his face.
He went all quiet and weird and pushed me off him.
I tried to lighten the mood and explain what had happened, but he grabbed his clothes and started to get dressed.
At the door he spat that he could never commit to a cheat. I’m devastated as I haven’t seen or heard from him since.
The truth is that my ex was a serial cheater.
In the three years we were together he must have cheated on me at least 15 times and always enjoyed telling me what he’d been up to.
To give him a taste of his own medicine I started seeing a guy and we had sex a few times. When I confessed, my rampant ex just laughed at me and said: “Welcome to my world.”
I hadn’t wanted to cheat but I thought it would make him see how much he was hurting me.
But he didn’t care so I chucked him out.
I really like this new guy but he just didn’t give me a chance to explain and I now wish I’d lied to him.
We have friends in common and I know where he hangs out with his mates. Should I attempt to track him down? JANE SAYS: You did what you thought was right at the time.
Your new boyfriend asked you a straight question and you gave him a straight answer.
It’s always better to tell the truth at the start of a new relationship.
You had no way of knowing how he’d react, especially as he’d been so excited by your threesome exploits with your friend.
It’s clear that this guy has strong feelings about being faithful and disapproves of cheating.
He may have been hurt by a cheating partner in the past. Who knows? You need to think about whether he’s the right person for you before you start tracking him down and pleading with him to listen.
Do you really want to have a relationship with someone who won’t hear your point of view?
I suggest you sit back and do nothing for the time being. Don’t go chasing around looking for your latest squeeze because he might just accuse you of stalking.
If this relationship is meant to be, then wait for him to make some kind of contact with you.
But my feeling is that this thing is already dead in the water.