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MY sister had a dreadful time with her husband.

Six months ago he finally left her. He was a cheat from day one of their toxic relationship.

He spent more time with his mates and lovers than with her in the five years they were together.

My guy and I adore each other, but my sister is making me feel guilty for being so happy.

Last week I pointed out that at least now she knows the truth and can start to move on.

She went nuts and accused me of being smug and not understanding what she was going through.

That’s true, but I’m not smug and can’t help it that I’m with a decent guy.

I do feel sorry for her, but how is any of this my fault?

JANE SAYS: Your sister has had a very bad time, but as you rightly say she has to start picking herself up again.

You have been there for her and have constantly given her support.

It’s clear that she’s jealous of your happy relationship and, although it’s not your fault, your happiness is making her despair worse.

She needs to see that you do care about her very much, but you have your limits.

For too long you have been treading on eggshells, not wanting to upset her and have taken all the anger she’s thrown at you.

Next time she criticises you, tell her how you feel.

Remind her how supportive you’ve been and say how much you object to being made to feel guilty.

Tell her you will always be there for her but she’s got to get a grip. Maybe she needs counselling and suggest she visits her GP for a chat.