Red-hot lover now insists she is gay
I THINK IT’S JUST A RUSE
MY girlfriend says we’re over because she’s gay.
She gushes she has fallen madly in love with a woman at work. Apparently they are now inseparable and she has never had such amazing sex.
I simply don’t buy it. We’ve been together for four years and she’s the most bloke-obsessed woman I’ve known.
She can barely watch the news without rating the male presenters and wondering what they’d be like in bed.
Boasted
Before me, she was the only woman in a six-bloke house and boasted about sleeping with every one of them – and many of their brothers and mates too.
For her to claim she’s now a lesbian seems ludicrous.
I think it’s an excuse to get me out of her life quickly. She doesn’t want me to question her or ask for a fresh start – so she’s come up with this excuse.
I find it insulting and low. Surely I’m worth more than this?
I love her. I left my wife and kids at her insistence and moved over 50 miles to share her bed. I gave up a good career and have a job I hate to earn enough money to support us both.
Now I feel thrown on the scrapheap. She’s asked me to move out as soon as possible and says she isn’t prepared to discuss this any further because she’s said all she has to say on the subject.
The other night, during a row, she actually suggested I go back to my wife.
But how can I? I only see my children when they visit my mother. How have I ended up in this terrible mess?
JANE SAYS: It’s very sad that everything has gone so badly wrong but you cannot keep insulting your girlfriend by telling her that she’s straight if she’s insisting she’s gay.
You can’t know how she’s feeling and it’s not for you to dictate her sexuality. Maybe she’s been living a lie?
If she wants to be free to love again then that’s up to her. Yes, of course you are angry and confused because you gave up a lot for her.
But you can’t stay where you’re not wanted.
Consider your options. Do you want to stay in the area or go back to where you came from?
Would your mother or pals allow you to stay just until you’re back on your feet?
If you’ve ended up in a job you hate, then maybe going back to your old career might be an option. I know it must be difficult to remain positive at this confusing time but if breaking up with your girlfriend means you’ll see more of your children, then that has to be a good thing.
Vow to retain your dignity. Sit down and think about where you want to go and what you want to do next.
This is no time for blame or recriminations.
Acceptance is intelligence, so wish your soon-to-be ex girlfriend well and be grateful for the good times.
You will be happy again.