Lover ditched me to wed a rich girl MONEY’S ALL THAT MATTERS
MY man of five marrying another for money.
He’s quite open about it. He doesn’t love her and doesn’t much like her either.
He says he is sorry but he is not prepared to go through life dirt poor. His childhood was hard and he’s not enduring cold houses or empty fridges again.
He says we can still be friends and still sleep together if I like. But what I can’t do is expect him to commit himself to me because he’s following the money – and that’s that.
Vain
years is woman
I’m disgusted and devastated. How can he stand to be so shallow when he knows I love him?
I’m by no means rich myself, but I have supported him (emotionally and financially) during our time together.
I once subbed him for six months when he was out of work and then lent him £5,000 so he could get back on his feet again.
Yes, he has always paid me back, but don’t I mean anything to him? I know the woman he’s marrying and she’s a vain, entitled monster.
She used to run a local business and is as hard as nails. Her last husband died in 2016 and she latched onto my bloke when he went round to her house to carry out some odd jobs.
I suspect they’ve been sleeping together behind my back, but it’s only now that he’s confessed that he’s moving in with her and giving her his name.
I thought we were destined to be together for ever. He insists I shouldn’t take any of this personally – it’s not about me, it’s about the money.
But how is that supposed to make me feel any better knowing that he’d rather sleep with someone for cash than be with me?
JANE SAYS: I’m going to say something and I want you to take it on board. Do not, I repeat, do not allow this man back into your life again.
You cannot allow him to use you for sex, laughs or even money. He may be bragging about his new lover’s wealth, but if she’s rich there’s probably a very good reason for that.
The reality is that rich people don’t like to fling their money about and he’s deluded if he thinks he’s in for a free ride.
Allow yourself a good old cry, punch a few cushions and then tell yourself you’ve had a lucky escape. Your man is not the person you thought he was. He’s disloyal and ungrateful.
I understand his determination to escape a povertystricken childhood, but there are certain ways to behave and he’s let himself down.
Wish him well, treat yourself to something indulgent and start making fun plans for the future.
But whatever happens, do not allow him to steal your time or energy again.
He had his chance and he blew it. He’s sold his soul and you should wish him luck – because he’ll need it.