Family won’t give bad boy a chance
MY LOVE DITCHED HIS KIDS
MY family and friends have already decided that they hate my new boyfriend even though they’ve never properly met him.
They don’t like the fact he left his pregnant wife and two children for me and claim he must be a selfish, unfeeling monster.
But what they don’t know is that the new baby isn’t even his.
His soon-to-be ex-wife is pregnant after a one-night stand with a stranger. He doesn’t deserve his bad reputation.
My best mate claims she knew of him growing up (he was a friend of her step-brother’s) and people were frightened of him.
Treats
OK, so maybe he was once a bit of a bad boy, but he’s absolutely lovely to me. I’ve been horribly let down by lovers in the past and he feels like a breath of fresh air. He’s never asked me for money or tried to control me.
If anything, I’m overwhelmed with treats and kindness, which is very unusual.
It’s also a huge bonus that he’s exciting and considerate in bed. Every day I wake up feeling like I’ve won the first prize in life. The first thing I see is him with a wicked glint in his eye and I know I’m going to be in for a wild time.
My mother is the person who resents him the most. She had become used to having me all to herself. But suddenly I’m not available to join her on holidays, shopping trips and days out and she is spitting mad.
I’ve told her I’m entitled to live my own life but she thinks she owns me.
The other night we had a terrible row during which she branded me deluded.
She said my man will take me for a ride and break my heart because “his sort” always do.
Now we’re hardly talking and I don’t know if I will ever be able to forgive her. Why can’t anyone be happy for me?
JANE SAYS: See what happens one day at a time.
At the moment you’re having a wonderful life with this exciting, imaginative man, but he has children and responsibilities.
He’s fresh out of a messy relationship and you’ve given him an escape, but you and he still have a long way to go.
Tell your friends and family they’re entitled to their own opinions and you’ll introduce him to them properly once you’re good and ready.
I can’t pretend I’m happy about a man leaving his family. Keep talking to him about seeing his children and maintaining a proper relationship with them.
If it turns out you and he are destined to go the distance, then good luck to you, but always make sure that you keep your eyes open.
Can a leopard change its spots? That’s for you to discover and decide.
This guy comes to you with a bad reputation, which is a hangover from his youth.
A lot of people seem to know an awful lot about him, so you would be a fool not to tread carefully and keep your wits about you.
MY guy carries on finding excuses not to follow through with the threesome he promised me.
I have a female friend who is up for some kinky fun.
Twice now I’ve invited her round for a drink – and more – and twice he’s bottled it by asking her to leave.
Now he thinks we should hold off until he’s had his yearly appraisal at work because he’s got a lot on his mind.
I tell him great sex will relax him, but he’s stalling. That hurts when he knows how keen I am.
JANE SAYS: Surely you have to conclude that your man isn’t interested in pushing back these particular boundaries.
If he’s refusing a threesome for a third time, respect his position and back off. But is this a relationship-breaker as far as you are concerned?
Are you happy carrying on with him knowing he’ll never agree to a third person in your bed?
The two of you are in a partnership – you can’t simply impose your fantasies upon him.
If you aren’t suited, then end it before you start to make each other frustrated and unhappy.