I’ll make my lying girl pay for affair SHE HAS HURT ME SO MUCH
THOUGHTS of revenge are consuming me.
My ex-girlfriend betrayed me and I want her to suffer. How come she gets to be happy while I’m still on my knees?
Seven months ago I started suspecting she was sleeping with her ex-boss. She was acting strangely, making furtive phone calls and staying out all hours.
I confronted her and she denied everything. In fact, she called me crazy and suggested I see our GP for psychiatric help.
Then a mate said he’d seen her in a car with another man. Again she said she was innocent, while I was vindictive and paranoid.
Hotel
Finally, last August I caught them coming out of a local hotel together. She hadn’t come home the night before and I was worried. I turned up at the venue on a hunch and was proved right.
She took one look at me and jumped into a taxi. Later she texted accusing me of stalking her. I asked her to remove her things and she moved out next day.
But now, surprise, surprise, she’s with someone new. Her latest lover is ridiculously goodlooking, rich and successful.
I’ve still got her on social media and she is posting a dozen pictures a day of their great life together. How is that fair? I’m not a wealthy guy but she never paid a bill or contributed a penny in rent during the two years she lived here.
I can’t stop thinking about how I can bring her down. Do her parents needs to hear what a nightmare she is? Should her new boss get a note?
If I see her in town I’m tempted to do something to show her she can’t treat people like dirt.
JANE SAYS: It’s sad that you feel bitter and angry, but you have to consign your ex-girlfriend to the past. She’s no longer your concern. Forget about revenge because immature and pathetic.
The problem is that if you step out of line and post one poison pen letter or send one nasty text then you could find yourself in big trouble.
Nothing she did was actually illegal, but making a nuisance of yourself certainly is. That may not seem fair to you, but that’s the reality.
Turn your anger on its head and force yourself to use your energy positively.
Focus on where you go from here. What are your dreams and ambitions?
You and your ex weren’t it’s suited. She wasn’t trustworthy and she disappointed you. Pick yourself up and move forward.
Remove her from your social media feed and mentally wish her goodbye.
The longer you hang on to your anger, the longer it will take you to heal.
Accept that you’ve been through a nasty period, but don’t allow her memory to waste any more of your time.
Be aware of any mistakes you made with her and vow not to allow yourself to be used again. She isn’t worth fretting over.