Booze and sex are bringing me down
SLEAZY FLING A MISTAKE
I’VE become shallow and selfish and hate myself.
I’m getting off with individuals purely for the sake of it. The other week I spent the whole weekend in bed with a colleague who I don’t like or even fancy.
She invited me over after the pub on the Friday and we spent the next 48 hours indulging in some very risky sex.
She supplied the booze and I supplied the orgasms. At one point I found myself tied to her bedpost as she flicked me with a feather duster and prodded me with a vibrator.
Dirty
I had a sudden moment of clarity. I thought: “What am I doing with my life?”
I eventually staggered out of there feeling like death, vowing never to drink again. But then my mate rocked up with a few cans and I found myself talking dirty to a woman on the internet.
I turned up for work on the Monday at noon only for my boss to send me home again.
He said I stank of booze and looked disgusting. I could hear everyone sniggering at me as I attempted the walk of shame through the office to the lift – and my weekend dominatrix was laughing the loudest. I blame my ex for all of my problems. She wasn’t the person I thought she was. We were together for three years and it was only through her brother that I eventually found out that she was a serial cheat.
He came up to me in a bar and said: “Mate, there’s something you need to know”. With that he explained that she’d never actually finished with her ex and that she regularly had sex with her boss (for cash) and flings with strangers for kicks.
I had no idea and dumped her on the spot. But now I feel bitter and lost. Where do I go from here when the one person I loved and trusted let me down so badly?
JANE SAYS: You can’t carry on blaming your ex forever.
I get it that she hurt you and let you down, but it’s time to take back control of your own life.
Your ex is history. You need to clean up your act and if that means giving up the booze, then do it.
Don’t allow mates to turn up with cans of beer, and start taking work seriously.
See your boss. Apologise for embarrassing him and promise to do much better.
I can’t help feeling you’re holding onto your job by a thread. Office-based affairs and flings are never a good idea so keep away from your colleagues in future.
If giving up booze is a problem for you, then speak to your GP regarding your out-of-control lifestyle.
Get your sexual health checked out because sleeping around has serious consequences.
You’re a lost soul at the moment, but you can’t allow life to get on top of you.
You have to start focussing and taking better care of yourself because your future health and happiness are in your hands.