Pals hate my hot new sex machine BUT HE’S SO WITTY AND FUN
NOT one of my friends likes my new boyfriend.
In fact, three mates have come out and declared that they hate his guts. What’s going on?
As far as I’m concerned he’s perfect. He’s good-looking and clever with a sense of humour.
He laughed me into bed within an hour of us hooking up and I’ve not wanted to leave his side since. I’d never used a dating app before but believe I’ve come up trumps with this diamond.
He’s by far the most exciting lover I’ve ever known. What he can’t do to me between the sheets is no-one’s business.
Yet when I tell my mates this – and try and fill them in on all the aspects of our brilliant love life – they stick their fingers in their mouths and pretend to be sick.
Jokes
My oldest friend has even banned all mention of him when we go out for our weekly drink.
But how can she claim to like me but not accept the man I adore? I can’t help feeling that there’s a lot of jealousy in the air.
Over Christmas a dozen of us went to a party. My bloke was his usual, sparkling self – telling jokes and being sarcastic.
At one point he started talking about group sex and orgies and my friends deliberately took his edgy humour the wrong way. I was crying with laughter, especially when he started showing off his porn star moves.
It was blindingly obvious he was winding them up, but they refused to see the joke.
Next day I received a flurry of messages calling him obnoxious and overbearing. Ridiculous.
I don’t believe for one moment that he ruined the whole party.
At least he’s not boring and predictable like the morons they date.
This is just typical of my friends – I finally find someone to love and they have to make a fuss and object. How is that fair?
JANE SAYS: Is your boyfriend an acquired taste?
As a rule of thumb we don’t always like everyone we come across, but don’t you find it a bit weird that none of your circle can stand him?
You believe he’s hilarious because this is your honeymoon period. But others find him overwhelming and inappropriate because he’s so full on. They never know what he’ll come out with next.
He makes people feel uncomfortable and edgy in social situations.
Talk to your pals and agree to disagree. Apologise if he did genuinely ruin their night and promise to keep him all to yourself in future.
It would be a disaster if you were to suddenly find yourself alienated or completely friendless.
I urge you to take one day at a time and just see how this relationship pans out.
If things do start to become awkward and uncomfortable, then don’t stick with him out of pride. You cannot allow him to drag you down.
I can’t believe that your friends want anything but the best for you. Are they really jealous? I think not…
NOW that I’ve had a baby, my mother expects to be fully involved in my new life. But why should I give her an inch?
Growing up she put my father first. She ran around after him like a lap dog.
Then she took care of her own needs – if she fancied a holiday or a treat then she went for it.
My brother and I were way down the food chain. We were minded by relatives and neighbours.
After the age of 16 we were left to fend for ourselves and I can never forget how she neglected us.
JANE SAYS: Your mother has to hear how you feel.
You can’t simply brush this anger under the carpet.
She might not like facing up to the fact that she was a selfish and negligent mother, but the air needs to be cleared before you all will be able to move on.
Can she explain her thinking? Does she believe she made mistakes?
I don’t think it’s healthy for you, as a new mother, to harbour feelings of resentment and anger, because this is a new beginning.
If you can’t resolve matters with her, seek therapy via your doctor.