I’m doing all of the leg work
I can tell that she is desperately trying to make it all up to me with home-cooked meals and any kind of sex I like.
But I’m not that easily won over. It’s hard when I don’t feel as though I’m her number one priority. She’s always telling me how much she loves me, but I don’t know if she’s loyal. She could be sleeping around for all I know.
JANE SAYS: This is 2020 and if your girlfriend wishes to advance her career and travel the country, then she’s perfectly entitled to do so.
She’s clearly a very talented and driven woman. Why can’t you be happy for her? You even describe yourself as high-maintenance.
Do you actually need to consult a health professional regarding your very low selfesteem? Did something happen in your past to make you feel this way?
Of course there are two sides to every story; she’s not perfect and neither are you, but I’d be very interested to hear her version of events.
What you need to realise is that you can’t keep your girlfriend locked up in a gilded cage. Of course, we all crave some love, attention and company. But I do not think stifling talent is going to make you popular with anyone. And not all relationships succeed or go the distance.
Maybe you and she need to start talking about your differences now.
Remember that you are a valid and important person in your own right.
You don’t need her, or anyone else, to complete you.
It would be healthier if you could work on building your own self-esteem and self-confidence.
Call The Samaritans (116 123) if you ever need to talk.
MY lover refuses to stay over at my place because he doesn’t like paying for parking.
Instead, I always have to travel to him on the bus.
My local authority has introduced a parking policy, which runs from 8am to 10pm, in order to deter commuters from parking up by the station.
I agree it’s annoying, but it would only cost my bloke £2.80.
What does that say about his attitude?
He knows I’d walk over hot coals for him, but it’s all one-way traffic.
JANE SAYS: Presumably you have to pay a bus fare. How much does that cost?
Your boyfriend may not wish to pay for parking on principle, but what about the effort required by you to travel to and from his place?
It’s pretty grim imagining you standing at a cold bus stop.
Relationships work best when they are based on give and take.
What compromises can be made?
If he doesn’t care for your wellbeing or safety, then is he the long-term guy for you?