Crazy bloke is too wild to keep a job
NEVER TAKES BLAME
MY boyfriend is behaving appallingly – yet nothing is ever his fault.
He blames all the lost weekends on drink, drugs and his outrageous mates.
In the two years I’ve known of him, he’s had 10 jobs and been fired from every single one of them for rudeness, laziness and appalling timekeeping.
Once, before we got together, he was caught having sex with a temp under a boardroom table.
They were so caught up in the moment that they failed to hear the door opening or notice the 10 pairs of legs quickly slotting in around them. The girl eventually looked sideways, screamed and the two of them barged out with their pants around their ankles.
Favourite
Apparently they laughed so hard that he then fell over and had to have his head bandaged by the company nurse.
Needless to say, he was let go the very next day, but it’s still one of his all-time favourite stories.
He’s currently unemployed again and driving me crazy. I’m sick of giving him money and listening to him moaning about his bad luck.
My brother runs a couple of vans. He specialises in street food and takes them to concerts and private parties. Over Christmas my bloke begged him for a job.
He said he just needed chance to get back on his feet.
A couple of weekends ago he was due to help out on the pizza van at a wedding reception. My brother was relying on him but he failed to show.
Eventually he staggered home claiming that he had been kidnapped by his mates for a joke.
They had driven him to Edinburgh and tied him to a lamppost. I know it’s not true because my mate says he was at her flat the whole time drinking with her husband.
It just annoys me so much that
ahe never takes responsibility for his actions and continues to treat me like an idiot. What’s to do?
JANE SAYS: Your boyfriend lives his life by his own rules.
He does what he wants and doesn’t even consider other people. From lying to your face to letting down your brother, he is a free spirit, which is fine, but you don’t have to be dragged down by his wild ways.
He says he wants a responsible job but does nothing to help himself.
Everything that ever goes wrong is someone else’s fault and when he finds himself cornered he comes up with the most outrageous/insulting tall stories.
Just how much more humiliation are you prepared to put up with?
At some point you have to start considering your own mental health.
Ask him for that long, overdue adult conversation.
I’m worried that he will never change because he is who he is. Start building bridges with your brother and remember that you’ll thrive without your boyfriend stealing your energy.
MY best friend’s business has just gone down the pan owing thousands of pounds.
I make sweets and chocolates and supplied her with stock. I trusted her to pay her bills and treat me well.
But now she’s told me to get to the back of the queue along with all of her other creditors.
We’ve known each other for 15 years, yet she’s treating me like a piece of rubbish.
Meanwhile, she’s driving around in her rich boyfriend’s sports car as if she’s done nothing wrong.
I’m so angry and disappointed. Her equally furious brother tells me that she never took the business seriously, it was simply a vanity project.
How dare she?
JANE SAYS: You cannot allow this setback to bring you down.
It’s extremely disappointing that this woman abused your friendship, but you have to bounce back for the sake of your mental health and forward planning.
You now know she was never a true friend.
Learn from your mistakes and emerge stronger.