Folks try isolating me from other half
FAMILY HATES MY MAN
MY family is trying to get me to split from my bloke.
I’ve been staying with my parents for the past two weeks, cooking, cleaning and doing the shopping. Luckily I can work from anywhere and my boss is being great.
But my mum and dad are urging me not to go back to my partner and are trying to poison my mind against him.
Sadly, they don’t believe he’s a good person, but they’re wrong. He’s lovely to me.
Gay
He and I got together back in January and I admit that I left my husband for him.
But our marriage had dead in the water for years.
What my parents don’t know is that my soon-to-be-ex-husband is gay. He and I stopped having sex after our third wedding anniversary and he’s been seeing a man for years.
It was only when I met my partner that I finally found the energy and courage to leave him.
Now I’m in love with a person I respect and love, but my parents don’t approve.
They’ve only met him once but it wasn’t a successful experience.
In February, I booked a table in a restaurant. Things got off to a bad start when my partner got been stuck at work and turned up late. Then he accidently spilt a glass of red wine over Mum and argued with Dad. They stormed off and called him “the worst man ever”.
My sister waded in and called him shifty because he’s been married and divorced twice.
Mum is a champion manipulator and keeps bleating on that she needs me here at home with her. She suggests that it would be selfish of me to ever leave.
I love them but they can’t keep me prisoner. How do I avoid this becoming a him-or-them issue when my heart is with my man?
JANE
SAYS:
Don’t
let
your parents control you and rule your life. You’re in your prime and you are entitled to be with the man you love.
If you believe that your new partner is worthy of you, all you can do is trust your instincts. The fact that he’s been married and divorced isn’t really relevant because you’re fresh out of a failed marriage yourself and most people of a certain age – both men and women – carry a certain amount of history and emotional baggage.
What’s important is that your man is kind, genuine and right. So tell your mother and father today that you don’t wish to hear any more on this subject.
You understand that they love you and care about you, but you haven’t been a child for a very long time and won’t be pushed around.
Insist that you all concentrate on living well and supporting each other. Then, when the time is right, you and your partner can be together and plan your future.
It’s sad that things got off to a bad start with your partner, but there is plenty of time for him to make things up to them.