Eight years of lust with bro’s missus
SHE’S MY PERFECT WOMAN
SEX with my sister-in-law has always been the best.
I’ve never wanted anyone else and she swears I’m the love of her life.
My brother recently said he’d like to divorce her. But would he ever allow me to take his place?
I’ve been in love with her for 10 years and sleeping with her for eight. She and my brother should never have married. They are simply not suited.
I was his best man and he threatened to run away on the morning of their wedding.
He actually told me he hated her guts. Their reception was a fiasco with both of them getting outrageously drunk and snogging other people.
Fighting
They were thrown out of their honeymoon hotel in Brighton because of fighting and didn’t even live together for the first three months of their marriage because she wasn’t prepared to leave her mum.
She and I first slept together when he moved to Germany for work. We enjoyed a wonderful, highly sexed affair for several months, which ended only when her mother died and she fell into a pit of grief.
My brother returned and they limped along until he started travelling again. She and been lovers ever since.
I’ve never married because she’s always been The One. But my brother can be awkward.
He’s a proud, stubborn man who has always treated me as his inferior. As a kid he would deliberately break an old toy or rip up a comic rather than give it to me.
Have I got the fight of my life on my hands?
I have
JANE SAYS: From what you say, your brother sounds like a formidable individual.
He pushed you around as a child and may not take you seriously as a man. But I don’t think anyone would blame him for feeling angry and betrayed.
After all you’ve been sleeping with his wife for years.
His marriage may not have started well, but what chance did it ever have with you flapping in the background like a predatory hawk?
Obviously your sister-inlaw can marry anyone she likes after her divorce, but are they going to split up?
He might be talking about a fresh start. But why, if she loves you so much, hasn’t she left home and divorced him herself? I’m puzzled.
Could it be that she secretly enjoys seeing you on the side while sticking with the security that he offers?
You claim that they were never suited, but you don’t know that. My worry is that you’ve already wasted years of your life on a woman who isn’t free.
Don’t you deserve a lover and a secure future of your own? I can’t condone your behaviour because it hasn’t been fair.
But I’ve got to now urge you to start being realistic. Open your eyes and stop chasing a dream.