Flirt hubby’s kiss with another guy WEDDING SHOW’S A SHOCKER
DO I walk away from my marriage knowing that my husband snogged another man right in front of my astonished family?
Or do I stick around and give him another chance?
We’ve only been married since December but I’m in turmoil.
I was unable to attend my cousin’s February wedding due to work. My husband was furious and accused me of putting my job before his needs.
Drink
We had a big row and he said he would go without me – and “make me pay”. From what I can piece together he was already half-cut by the time he turned up for the 3pm ceremony.
He proceeded to drink his way through wine, champagne and beer until the disco started.
Then there was an almighty cheer as he recognised a guy we both worked with in Ibiza back in 2017. Apparently their eyes locked over the crowded dance floor and my husband thought it would be a really good idea to flirt, dirty dance and snog.
My aunt says it was embarrassing. They made a complete spectacle of themselves and the bride was in tears. Eventually two of my uncles dragged my husband outside, where a scuffle ensued. I returned home to find an empty flat. I was frantic and finally found my man holed up in a hotel with his “new best friend”.
He claims they did no more than kiss and definitely didn’t have sex, but I don’t know what to believe any more.
His excuse now is that he was on antibiotics for a wisdom tooth. He was so out of it that he didn’t know what he was doing.
Do you buy that? The rest of my family sure don’t and I’m under pressure to dump him.
JANE SAYS: The first thing I’d say is that it’s your life and you must do what is right for you. You’ve only been married to your husband for a short time and, I expect, entered into your marriage with love, high hopes and great expectations.
Yes, he disgraced himself at your cousin’s wedding – and he must apologise to the bride and groom – but you can’t allow relatives to bend your ear or force you to react in a certain way. You have to make up your own mind.
What is your husband saying now? Does he admit that he has anger or immaturity issues? Does he need to seek professional help for his drinking? I accept that taking strong drugs can have an adverse effect on an individual’s behaviour, but did he deliberately drink so much to humiliate and spite you?
He mentioned “making you pay”. Is that his mindset in general? If he’s not the man you thought he was, can you come back from this as a committed couple?
We all make mistakes. I’m sure he does feel bad now, but you have to consider your own happiness, health and mental limits. Is this man really going to make you happy for the rest of your life?