He’s confessed to romps with his ex
BUT THE TRUTH’S PAINFUL
MY bloke has finally admitted that he still sleeps with his ex-wife.
This confession has come after nine months of me begging and screaming for the truth.
I knew I wasn’t imagining things or going mad. I knew it didn’t take six hours to drive two eight-year-olds 10 miles to their mum’s house on a Sunday night.
Now I’ve finally got him to confess that they’ve never ceased to be sexual. At the moment his children are staying with their grandparents in the countryside. His ex-wife is there too.
I’ve asked him to promise me that he won’t fall back into the old routine when they finally return, but he says he can’t. He says his ex will still expect sex because that’s “just the way they are”.
Sneer
Apparently it’s “complicated” and beyond my understanding as I don’t know her like he does.
I feel like pulling my hair out. Before Christmas I met this woman just twice.
She wanted to check I was safe to leave her children with. Both times she was unfriendly. She dismissed me with a sneer and laughed when I asked her if we could be friends.
Since then my bloke has admitted she makes jokes about my
“old-fashioned clothes” and my “fuddy-duddy” attitudes.
But she clearly deems me unthreatening and therefore safe to look after her kids several days a month. Thanks…
He and I have a decent enough sex life, but I have no idea what they get up to behind my back.
A few times he’s made references to the wild times they enjoyed with the various swingers who lived in their old village.
But then he backtracks and seems to suggest an open relationship was what contributed to the end of their marriage.
Can you blame me for feeling confused?
JANE SAYS: Your relationship is overcrowded. There’s a piggy in the middle – and I’m afraid it’s you.
Your lover is still sleeping with his ex and she seems to view you as some kind of joke figure. Not good.
Both consider you decent enough to cook and look after their kids, but don’t afford you the courtesy of treating you with respect.
His children are still very young and will be in his life for ever – and that’s just as it should be.
But he can’t treat you like an unpaid childminder. Does he actually like you for yourself or just what you can do for him and his kids?
Does he know who else his ex-wife sleeps with? Does he even consider your sexual health when he hops into bed with her?
There are so many unanswered questions.
This current situation is totally unsatisfactory and weighted horribly against you and your needs.
If he can’t give you certain guarantees moving forward, then you have to conclude he is as tricky and selfish as she is and start walking.