My lockdown lust while wife’s away
HER BEST PAL IS IN OUR BED
SEX with my wife’s best friend is amazing, but I feel guilty and in over my head.
My wife is currently stuck in Australia looking after her sick mother. She flew there before lockdown and has been playing nursemaid ever since.
What she doesn’t know is that her best mate has been in our house since March.
She came round the day lockdown was announced and asked if she could stay a couple of nights because she was between boyfriends and scared.
We drank too much and ended up in my bed – where she’s remained ever since.
Naughty
I’ve always secretly fancied her and just thought it would be for a few days, but weeks have turned into months and we’re like a proper loved-up couple now.
This was never meant to happen. What scares me is that I can successfully split my mind in two. When I’m making love with her, I’m in paradise.
She’s naughty and experimental, and I don’t even think about my wife and the consequences of my actions. Then, when my wife comes online, I’m all hers again. We chat and flirt like old times.
My lover has started to resent me speaking to my wife. She’s become jealous and possessive and keeps saying: “You are going to split up with her, aren’t you?”
But I don’t know what I’m doing. My wife is talking about coming home in a few weeks, but then what?
She’ll obviously have to isolate for two weeks and my lover has nowhere else to go. She says I have to sort this. She reckons I’ve made promises I have to keep. But this is all such a mess. I don’t know who I love or who I want to be with.
JANE SAYS: It’s clear to me your lover has to leave as soon as it’s legal and possible for her to do so. She has to make other arrangements, because you can’t lock your wife out of her own home.
This has gone far enough. For several months your wife has been nursing her sick mother on the other side of the world.
This lockdown took us all by surprise, but you’re not being fair. I’m sure you never meant for her friend to stay for so long, but she should never have stayed with you for even one night.
Your wife trusts you and you’ve betrayed her in the cruellest way possible. From your choice of lover to sex in the marital bed, it’s a big mess. Your lover may bleat that it’s not fair, but your wife is your priority.
As soon as she’s back she has to hear the truth. You cannot dress this up to be anything other than what it is – a monumental betrayal.
If it turns out that you’d actually prefer to have your lover as your future partner, then that’s something for another day. But you have to deal with your wife first.
I suspect she’ll be very hurt – and I don’t think anyone would blame her for that.