I fear hubby is dad of my mum’s child
THEY’VE HAD SEX BEFORE
MY mum is pregnant and I’ve got a horrible feeling my husband is the father.
None of us could believe it when she told us a baby is due in September.
She’s 46 and I didn’t even realise she could still have children.
Obviously, my sister and I both asked her about the father. Who is he? When did they get together? But she said she preferred not to say because things were “complicated” between them.
Now she’s swanning around my house like Mother Earth. I keep catching her with a sly smile on her face as if she’s harbouring some enormous secret.
Meanwhile, my husband is acting like a fugitive on the run.
Stressed
He’s jumpy and snappy with the guiltiest look on his face.
He’s refusing to have sex with me because he says he’s stressed with work.
But it wouldn’t take Poirot to work out what’s going on. He’s as terrified as she’s smug and I’m absolutely furious.
The two of them have form. She slept with him in 2017 while I was working in Spain. I found out the day after my wedding.
To think that she’s been sleeping with him again makes me feel sick to the core. The other night I tried to have a conversation with her and, typically, she turned everything on me. She said I was too uptight and needed to chill.
My sister says I was a fool to ever trust her again and I think she’s right. I should never have allowed her to isolate with us, but what could I do when she said she had nowhere else to go?
JANE SAYS: Get your husband on his own and insist on hearing the truth.
Did he have sex with your mother again and could the baby be his?
He needs to hear you are exasperated and exhausted and not inclined to play games. Come September a precious baby will be born.
This is a serious matter. Your mother may be drifting around like the cat that got the cream, but he is married to you and you deserve to hear where you stand.
Having come through an extremely stressful period in isolation with the family, you now have this situation hanging over you.
No-one would blame for feeling overwhelmed.
If your mother has always been a colourful character, and someone you cannot actually you rely upon or trust, then wouldn’t it be better for her to go and stay with another family member or friend?
Now lockdown is lifting she needs to be encouraged to relocate to a safe space – especially if she seems to be enjoying being mischievous and winding you up.
Sadly, if your man is the dad and they simply can’t resist each other, you’ll have to consider your position.
It’s sad that you can’t trust your own mother, but you can’t throw away your future on a man who blurs the lines and isn’t faithful or loyal.