NEED TO TALK Dumped by a love rat
TRUTH WAS A MISTAKE
Steve and Kelly are in the kitchen
You really are a tart, Kelly. I just don’t trust you any more
You, having more fun with Emma than with me...i’m going out, I don’t even want to look at you
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I WISH I’d never told my husband about a fumble I enjoyed with a colleague last February.
Now he’s told me about all the affairs he’s had since our 2013 wedding – and we’re getting divorced. Our house is being sold and our stuff divided up.
Why did I open my big mouth? I thought honesty was the best policy and he deserved to hear that I kissed
That’s a nice thing to say, Steve
But Steve...!
Well it’s true... you’ll shag anything
Steve slams the door
I only did it to fulfil Steve’s fantasy...and now he’s jealous that I enjoyed it...i can’t win! and groped (but did not sleep with) my section manager after a party.
But he trumped my fumble with explicit tales of sordid sex, threesomes and full-on affairs. He admits he’s not perfect, but he didn’t expect me to stray and, therefore, can never forgive me.
What brought this on?
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JANE SAYS: You and your husband have been living a lie for a very long time.
I know things are tough now, but if he’s been cheating on you since your wedding and you found yourself tempted by another guy, then
I DOUBT that your relationship will ever be the same again.
Sometimes it’s not good to get what you wish for. Steve had no idea that seeing you having sex with another woman would make him feel so jealous, insecure and angry.
His reaction has also made you see a side of him you don’t like.
Explain to him that it’s not your fault how things have turned out.
Maybe you need time apart to see if you miss each other and whether your relationship can get over this massive hurdle.
You both need to have a think about whether you still want to be together. If you do, this lesbian episode needs to be put behind you.
If Steve can’t get over you fulfilling his fantasy, then I really can’t see any future for you.
SAT the marriage was a sham. There’s no doubt he’s guilty of glaring double standards, but was this ever a good match? I don’t think so.
In this case honesty was the best policy because at least you now know where you stand.
You can start your life again with someone who wants to be with you for all the right reasons.