Girlfriend’s mum wants me for sex
DRINK IS MAKING HER BAD
MY girlfriend’s dominant mother expects to come out with us all of the time.
Lately I’ve got the feeling she expects to have sex with me too.
More than once she’s got me on my own and hissed: “When is it going to be my turn?”
I suspect she’s horribly jealous of the relationship I enjoy with her daughter.
She’s a great one for getting drunk and giving everyone a piece of her mind.
She goes from 0-60 and becomes bitter and resentful.
Sorry
She slurs that my girl is lucky, that she’s smug and entitled. The woman rants that she’s never had the same opportunities in life, that her childhood was poverty-stricken and that she’s never been able to fulfil her potential.
She got into the best grammar school but her parents couldn’t afford the uniform. She was then forced to leave her local comprehensive at 16 to earn money for the whole family when she could have gone to university.
I’m sorry she feels hard done by but fail to see what that’s got to do with me.
Recently, during drinks with relatives she tried to snog me.
Later she slurred that she was sorry and was desperate to make things right. She then ran her hand up my arm and offered me sex on a plate. I told her to forget it and she started crying, saying she was lonely and felt ugly.
My girlfriend is a lovely person and feels sorry for her mum, but I’ve just about had it.
I worry she could turn nasty or actually be dangerous.
I’m terrified of saying or doing the wrong thing for fear of incurring her wrath. What can I do?
JANE SAYS: You have to protect yourself because this woman sounds unpredictable and angry.
Of course your girlfriend wishes to support and help her mother, but if drink turns her into an unreasonable liability, then she cannot be allowed to hang out with you again without stipulations being put in place.
Her behaviour isn’t funny and isn’t appropriate. Insist on an adult chat where you come clean with her and explain that this can’t go on.
Tell her that you’ll happily see her again but only if she stays completely sober – and that means no alcohol at all.
Warn her that you will not be embarrassed or compromised again – and that she has to get professional help via her GP.
She’s become too familiar. She thinks she can say and do anything she likes but that’s not on.
There’s no doubt that she endured a bad start, therefore can she be encouraged to make up for lost time?
What about adult education or a fresh start to fulfil her dreams? Make sure you carve out quality time with your partner.
If this woman acts inappropriately in a sexual, physical or verbally abusive way, then report her to the police.