Cruel fella’s made my pregnancy hell
tioned I’d like to start trying for a child and, again, he begged me to wait. I accidentally got pregnant a few months ago and now he’s accused me of trying to trap him with another man’s child.
I love him so much and it breaks my heart to hear him being so unkind and cruel. I’ve told him I want him to be around for the birth and he’s said: “Forget it. I’m off to Australia.”
JANE SAYS: Did your boyfriend lure you in during the early days of your courtship?
Did he promise children because he knew you longed for a big family? By telling you he wanted a country house and a “football team” of kids, he reeled you in.
Was he ever serious about wanting a family or was it just a way to keep you on side? You say you now hardly recognise the man standing before you.
But maybe you’ve never really known him at all? Coming out with a childish line like “I’m off to Australia” is pathetic in the extreme.
Please stop trying to understand him and start looking after yourself and your unborn baby.
Even if your man doesn’t wish to live with you and the child, he should be involved in the upbringing and financial maintenance.
Tell him you can’t have any more rows because they’re no good for your blood pressure or mental health.
You know that he is the father – and he obviously knows it too. Eventually a wonderful baby is going to be born and then the practicalities and details will have to be sorted out.
If you are able to organise a DNA test, then everyone will finally know exactly where they stand.