Everyone resents my quiet new girl
BUT SHE IS GOOD FOR ME
PEOPLE keep telling me that my girlfriend isn’t good enough for me.
Mates claim I need someone more sexy and dynamic. They refer me back to all the girls I’ve dated before – the models, dancers and target-driven saleswomen – and can’t understand what I see in my current girlfriend.
But I like her quiet, considered ways. She might not be ambitious but she’s kind to me in a way that the others weren’t.
There’s no getting away from the fact that my folks are very image conscious. If anything my mum, dad and sisters are the worst of the lot. They love their designer labels and their bling.
Style
From my dad’s collection of flash watches to my mum’s incredible handbags, they ooze style and sophistication.
I was bought up to believe that cash is king and that being wealthy equals true success in life. My girl couldn’t be more different. You won’t find her marching around posh shops or sunning herself in Marbs.
She likes curling up with a good book or cooking us a simple, delicious meal.
Recently two of my oldest mates staged an “intervention”. They dragged me out to the pub and told me: “You’ve changed”. They said their partners don’t like my girl because she lets the side down image-wise. But my old life exhausted me.
All that dressing up and pretending to be cool knocked the stuffing out of me. What they don’t know is that sex is better with my new girl too.
I’m experiencing real passion and affection for the first time in my life. How do I get everyone to back off and leave us alone?
JANE SAYS: You seem to have arrived at a good place.
You’re finally with a partner who grounds and compliments you. You’ve worn yourself out pretending to be something you’re not.
It’s OK for your mates and family members to chase wealth and trinkets, but if cars, watches and designer togs don’t rock your boat, then you’re allowed to say that and be yourself.
You’re an individual and if chilling out with a good book and plate of home-cooked pasta is more your thing these days, then that’s good.
You’re lucky to have found peace and harmony.
Tell anyone who is concerned that they can stand down. Tell them you’re finally happy. Cherish your girlfriend and don’t allow her to feel under siege.
Let her know you’ve got her back and that you love her. If any family members disrespect her again, you will need to iron things out.
Surely your own parents want to see you settled and contented?
And if your mates’ girlfriends are really that shallow and judgmental, is it time to find a new circle of pals?
Could it be that you’ve finally matured and outgrown the old guard?