Love rat’s run up debt at a brothel LOSER’S DRIVING ME MAD
JUST when I thought I couldn’t hate my boyfriend more, he’s confessed to heavy debts and trysts with sex workers.
This man manages to disappoint me virtually every day.
Just why does he have to be so complicated?
He and I were due to move into a lovely flat last month. I thought everything was set. I’d even picked out a new sofa and fancy bed linen.
Then the letting agent rang to say there was a problem.
My boyfriend wasn’t returning calls and hadn’t paid the deposit ( half of which was from me).
Park
I texted my guy and he said there had been a mistake. He said I wasn’t to worry – he’d fix it.
But then he disappeared. Noone could get hold of him, not even his mum. In the end he texted me asking to meet in a park.
I turned up and he looked terrible, as if he’d been sleeping rough. He sobbed that some terrible people were after him.
He owed money all over town and had given my deposit money away. Then he warned me that a brothel owner was planning to ruin him and I had to help.
He urged me to find £ 2,000 or he’d be done for. Now I don’t
know what to do. He’s still in considerable debt, but he’s begging me to stick with him. He reckons he can turn his life around. He says this is just a blip and he’ll be more responsible in future.
I’m back living with my sister while he’s dossing with a mate.
People tell me I’ve got a weakness as far as he’s concerned, but I’m sick of living this chaotic, disjointed life.
JANE SAYS: How many second or third chances does this man deserve?
From letting you down over the flat to insisting you stick with him now, your boyfriend
sounds like his own worst enemy. Why has he been visiting sex workers when he has you?
Who are these “terrible people” he owes money to?
I still don’t feel you’re getting the full story. Has he been involved in crime or drugs? Is he an innocent victim or a major fool?
He begs you to believe that he’s changing but when are the loans going to end?
Remember that nothing binds you to this individual.
You’re not married or in business together. And you can walk away any time you
like. You say his life is chaotic, but you owe him nothing. In fact, he now owes you money and some major explanations.
Sadly, if your friends can see him for what he is ( a loser) then why can’t you?
Do yourself a favour and view the loss of the new flat as a lucky escape.
I very much doubt you’ll ever get your money back because I doubt if you’re his priority. Learn from this mess and keep walking.
If you don’t, then there will always be another disaster and he’ll always have anoth