She will not dump her selfish hubby I REALLY WASTED MY TIME
MY lover has finally admitted she will never leave her husband.
I can’t believe this. She and I have been through so much together.
I supported her when her hubby was “finding himself” on a round- the- world trip and she was desperate and broke. She nursed me through cancer.
We even survived a car crash together in 2017 when a truck spun out of control in front of us on a motorway.
Painful
The emergency services said we were both very lucky to come out of it alive.
During the long, painful recovery we clung to each other, vowing never to part. Now she’s saying that she’s very sorry but marriage is forever and she’s not prepared to leave him for me. He’s back home having regained his mojo and they’re trying again.
I’m sitting in the luxury flat she chose, paying a huge amount of rent each month not knowing what to do next. By rights we should be living here together as a proper couple, but I feel I’ve been duped.
She still wants us to stay friends but how is that possible?
The other night she got drunk and rang me at midnight. She
started talking dirty and asked me to pop over. She slurred that her husband had stormed out after a row and she was feeling upset and horny. Was I interested in a quickie? I’m ashamed to say that I weakened but felt dirty and ridiculous when she threw me out at 3am.
How can she treat me like this when I’ve always been there for her, and her husband is nothing but a selfish waste of space?
JANE SAYS: Your lover’s other half may well be selfish and unreliable but he’s her husband.
From what I can make out,
during the time you and she have been together he has been largely absent. But now he’s back and reclaiming his place in her life.
This may all seem very unfair – considering everything you’ve been through together – but she’s been forced to pick a man and she’s picked him. It’s vital you start to concentrate on protecting your mind and your heart. You have to toughen up and tell her “no”.
There can be no more drunken sex sessions or conversations about, well, anything really. If the flat you’re
currently renting is too expensive, can you get a lodger or move on? Be proactive and work out your options.
Park the past, accept that you and she had some interesting times during a very intense period but it’s all water under the bridge.
You cannot allow her to play with your mind or mess you around ever again. I’m sure you were very useful when her husband was absent but it’s not your job to be her jester.
Tell her goodbye and mean it or she’ll continue to disappoint you.