He wants to keep his tart and wife
BUT LIES ABOUT AFFAIR
MY husband humiliated me with a much younger woman, but he still thinks we can stay married.
He and a colleague have always had a bit of a thing between them. I first spotted the undeniable chemistry at an office event in 2018 and wasn’t amused.
Therefore, when he announced in the summer that he was going to the European office for six weeks, I asked him if she was going.
Holed
He swore categorically that she was not. In fact he looked me in the eyes and said: “I would never do anything to hurt you or let you down.” He lied.
Not only was his flirty colleague on the same trip but they shared the company apartment.
Admittedly it’s a big place and two other colleagues were holed up there too, but she and he were under the same roof.
I didn’t know this until one of the other colleagues posted some pictures of a party on social media. My husband and this woman could be seen kissing and dancing in the background.
I rang my man and ordered him home but he wouldn’t come. He said that his boss needed him out there. So I flew over myself with my brother in tow
and we spotted him kissing and cuddling her in a number of locations around the city.
Eventually I approached him and he blustered that I’d got it all wrong. He was comforting her after a bereavement. I had to believe him because, again, he would never do anything to hurt me. Blah, blah, blah.
Now he’s insisting that our marriage is viable and that he loves me more than anything else in the world. But how can I ever believe him?
JANE SAYS: The problem is that you saw your husband’s behaviour with your own
eyes. For ages you suspected an attraction between him and his colleague. You’d seen them together at an office event and when pictures were published online, everything became real.
Does your husband intend to carry on lying or is he finally going to come clean regarding this woman? Were they – or are they still – sexually active?
Plenty of people do come back from an affair – they agree to forgive and forget – but you’re not obliged to do anything you’re not comfortable with. I suspect he’ll beg
you to think about the bigger picture.
What kind of effect might a divorce have on your extended family and your children if you have any? But what was he thinking about when he was with her? He must know that you have eyes and ears and a strong sense of your own worth.
Ultimately, only you can decide if this marriage has a future. Think carefully and don’t make any rash decisions. Would you benefit from speaking to a relationship counsellor, either with or without him?