I come on to fella but he refuses sex PARTNER LAUGHS AT ME…
I KEEP coming up with ways to improve our sex life, but my bloke refuses to try any of them.
Any time I swish into the bedroom in naughty black lingerie, he sneers that I look pathetic.
Any attempt at sexual role play is roundly condemned, too.
A couple of weeks ago, I bought some erotic literature and suggested an early night. I set the scene with wine, scented candles and a satin duvet cover. I invited him to join me on the bed where I planned to read to him.
But all he did was laugh in my face. He refused to take my idea seriously and spoilt the moment by flicking on the lights and turning on the telly. I fled to the bathroom in tears, which he thought was even funnier.
I’m climbing the walls with sexual longing because there’s only so much my trusty sex toys can do for me. I yearn for fleshonflesh action; I need to be ravished, held and made to scream.
Why does he make me feel ridiculous and desperate for trying to get something going? I’m not an unattractive woman so why doesn’t he fancy me?
Friends are always bragging about the great sex they enjoy with their partners.
One mate only has to give her bloke a certain look and he falls
at her feet. Another has to fight her guy off her; they have had to agree a sex rota or he’d be ravishing her every minute of the day.
I can only dream of such adoration. My guy and I haven’t had sex since last May and even then, it was soulless and begrudging. He even expected me to thank him afterwards.
JANE SAYS: There are many reasons why individuals go off sex. It could be that your man is physically ill, is feeling depressed or is confused about his sexuality.
I suspect a lot of people are currently stressed and distracted
because we’re living through extremely troubling and challenging times.
If he’s worried about losing his job or your home, it’s possible that he can’t relax sufficiently to make love, which is a pity as sex is actually a great stress buster, boosts the immune system and gives us a natural high.
It would be a big relief if he could relax enough to meet you halfway. That said, nothing gives him the right to ridicule you. If he’s not interested in intimacy, he needs to respect your position by talking about his feelings
away from the bedroom. Have you asked him to start being honest with you?
If the reality is that he’s stopped desiring you, for whatever reason, you deserve to hear where you stand.
It breaks my heart to think of you trying desperately to turn him on while he heckles you. That’s no good for your self- worth.
Sadly, if you decide that you and he are never going to make each other happy, you must never blame yourself – or him – for the fact that you’re simply not suited.