Evil ‘ friend’ made me dump my hubby TALKED INTO A DIVORCE
HOW did an evil friend convince me to dump my husband?
I’m facing a cold and lonely Christmas when I should be with the man I love. I curse myself for listening to the manipulative individual who dripped poison into my ear for months on end.
I thought she was a mate who had my interests at heart, but it was her who kept telling me he was lazy and ineffectual. It was she who rang and suggested that he was having affairs.
Now she’s moved to a new town and will no longer take my calls – having actually accused me of stalking her when I realised what she’d done.
Cruelty
My devastated husband is back living with his parents and demanding a divorce. He is accusing me of everything from mental torture to downright cruelty and he’s absolutely right.
I have been horrible, but only because she got into my head.
My marriage was nothing but sport to her. She deliberately and systematically ripped apart everything I held dear. Anything I said about my husband’s job, habits and family was turned on its head into a negative.
At one point she even suggested that he wanted me dead after I
tripped over his sports bag that she claimed he’d deliberately left at the top of the stairs.
I dumped him on his birthday. All morning she had been sending me texts asking: “Have you done it yet?” I made a big show of telling him how much he disappointed me. He didn’t say a word – he simply grabbed his coat and left.
Now I look back and weep. We were nothing but a pair of fools at the whim of a bored, manipulative woman.
JANE SAYS: Yours is a tragic story. But surely you have to fight with every fibre of your
being to get your estranged husband back? He has to hear the full story.
You have to throw yourself at his mercy. The fact is that you allowed your head to be turned by a person who had too much time on her hands.
She wickedly took great delight in messing with your marriage and splitting you up. Whether she was bored or simply nasty, she got between you and did her worst.
Now she’s living miles away and you’ve been left to pick up the pieces.
There’s no doubt in my mind that you have a huge
amount of explaining apologising to do.
You can’t blame her 100% for what went on because you’re an adult with a mind and tongue of your own. You made certain accusations and choices – and you have to take full responsibility.
Would he consider a fresh start if you promised not to hurt or let him down again? Can you discuss loyalty and respect? What about talking a relationship counsellor?
Sadly, if he is really not interested, you must accept that mistakes have been made – and learn from them. and