Divorce plea like a bolt from the blue
MY WIFE REFUSES TO TALK
I’M finding my estranged wife’s rejection of me so hard to deal with.
Back in November she came home from work and announced that she wanted a divorce.
It was a bolt from the blue. had no idea she was unhappy.
I begged her to tell me what was going on. Had I done something wrong? Had she met someone else? But she refused to give anything away.
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All she kept saying was: “I’m sorry but I need to be free”. With that she packed her bags and left.
I naturally assumed she’d gone to her mother’s house. So, the next day I went round there for a chat but, again, I was rebuffed.
I was told by her mother that she was refusing to speak to her too. All she knew was that my wife no longer wished to be married to me and craved a totally new kind of life.
Now we’re four months down the line and I hear she’s living with a friend with a view to getting a place on her own once our house is sold.
In the meantime, she has filed for divorce.
We still haven’t had a proper chat about what went wrong. I’ve suggested relationship counselling, but she blanks any attempt
at reconciliation. My only means of contact is via text. She won’t answer my calls and ignores most of my messages.
We used to have a good marriage. We were still having sex right up until she left.
Will she wake up one morning and regret running away and being so headstrong? Why didn’t she feel she could talk to me?
JANE SAYS: So much happened in such a short space of time.
Last November you happily married and sleeping together.
Then your estranged
has very
were still
wife
dropped a bombshell. She announced she was leaving, offering no explanation and no proper reason why.
Now things are licking along at an indecent haste.
She’s pushing for the sale of the house and wishes to be divorced and free as soon as possible.
It’s difficult to know what’s going on inside her mind if she refuses to open up and be honest with you or her own mother.
It’s possible that she’s going through a personal crisis or the pandemic has convinced her that her life
needs to take a direction in future.
Maybe she will regret being so hasty, but that’s a topic for down the line.
You might consider counselling on your own if you feel that talking to a third party might help.
I can imagine that recent events have almost fried your brain, but please remember that you need to take care of yourself.
She may have chosen to leave but it’s important that you are aware of your own worth. Pick up the pieces and start making your own plans. different