Living it up while wife hard at work
PLAYING GAMES IS MY ‘JOB’
I’M pretending to work but all I actually do is play computer games and look at porn all day.
My wife has worked throughout the whole of the pandemic in a warehouse.
She thinks I beaver away as an accountant, but two significant things happened last year.
Firstly, I was made redundant and received a small pay off. I was mortified and chose to hide the truth.
Flush
I pretended to carry on working but then I received a large cheque in the post.
A distant relative had died leaving me a healthy bequest.
I was in two minds whether to come clean or not, but then decided to wing it.
Since then, I’ve managed to carry on paying my half of the bills and my wife has absolutely no idea that I’m both unemployed and flush.
We’ve always had separate accounts. I used to hate working; accountancy really wasn’t for me and I dreamed of the day I’d finally be able to retire.
I love porn and I love gaming and I’ve made my office very cosy with a little bar, jukebox and squidgy sofa.
I’m like a pig in the brown
stuff. But I’m not completely without a conscience. My wife’s job is very hard and I feel guilty about the hours she puts in.
But on the other hand, she’s no better or worse off than before, she just doesn’t know the full story. I’ve not actually told any lies, but haven’t committed full disclosure either.
Am I the worst person alive, because the fact is that I’m having a lovely time and have never felt more chilled or laid back?
JANE SAYS: Things may seem wonderful at the moment as you’re enjoying something of a golden hour.
But looking at porn and playing games can’t be your long-term aim.
Any form of addictive behaviour is worrying.
Isn’t your confidence and sense of self-worth going to start dipping soon?
Presumably your inheritance isn’t going to last for ever, especially as you seem to be treating yourself to boys’ toys.
I accept that you haven’t lied to your wife but there’s no ducking the fact that you haven’t told her the truth.
Doesn’t she deserve some honesty? It’s good that you’re
still paying your half of the bills but maybe she could start working a little less?
Maybe she could be treated to a holiday or an exciting experience?
How would you feel if she lost her job and inherited money and kept the truth to herself?
I fully understand that you hated your old job and needed a change, but you need to start thinking about a new one – a different one.
You can’t go through life without a purpose, that way lies anxiety and a sense of uselessness.