Rat hubby wants to see mistress again
I HAVE TO ‘LIKE IT OR LUMP IT’
MY husband says he is going to resume his longrunning affair with his mistress – and there’s nothing I can do about it.
I thought we were back on track. I assumed that being cooped up together for a year had healed our marriage and bought us back together again.
But I can only conclude that he’s been fantasising about her and having cybersex behind my back since last March.
Plots
It’s taken me a long time to realise it but with my husband, what you see is not what you get.
On the surface he can be charming and engaging.
He can cook a wonderful meal, make passionate love and promise me the world. But the minute I look away, he does precisely what he likes. He lies, plots and scurries about like a little rat.
Our daughter recently came over. We sat in the garden and enjoyed a relaxing drink.
Her father zipped around getting snacks and cushions like the perfect host and she whispered to me how delighted she was to see the two of us so happy together. That night we enjoyed amazing sex.
But the next day, he dropped his bombshell, saying he planned
to start staying with his mistress three nights a week – like before – from June 21. Apparently, I can like it or lump it.
I begged him to reconsider. I promised him more sex, more freedom, more anything if only he’d not humiliate and hurt me again. But he simply said: “You know the score.”
Now I’m in pieces. I thought I’d got my man back. I thought his mistress was history – but she’s been stalking him all along.
JANE SAYS: You can’t blame his mistress for stalking him if he’s contacting her too. It takes two to tango and never
forget that he’s the one in the relationship with you.
It’s sad and disappointing that he’s gone through all of the lockdowns with you and has now announced he’s going straight back into her arms in June. Talk about a slap in the face.
Doesn’t he care about your sexual and mental health?
How does he think that having sex with another woman from June 21 is in any way safe, kind, healthy or appropriate?
I can’t help thinking that this should be your time now. Your daughter is grown up
and you deserve to be happy and free. If your husband can’t bring himself to dump his long-term lover in favour of your long-term marriage, then he’s finally shown his true colours.
Talk to supportive family and friends about where you go from here. Remember that he doesn’t define you and that your future doesn’t have to include him.
Occasionally in life, we have to make difficult decisions – ones that involve major upheaval and lifestyle changes – in order to feel like ourselves again.