She beds clients to seal her deals
MY GIRL DOES IT FOR JOB
MY girlfriend says she has to have sex with clients as part of her job.
She claims if she didn’t take rich players back to swanky hotels rooms for nights of booze and passion, she wouldn’t hit her targets and would get the sack.
She’s in the highly competitive world of sales.
I’ve met her boss a couple of times and accept that he’s a hardheaded ball-breaker but I’m more inclined to believe this attitude comes from her, not him.
My girl is an extremely driven, ambitious person. She works hard and plays hard too.
During normal times she enjoys the finer things in life – fast cars, holidays and designer clothes – and is now sharpening her claws in anticipation of making another fortune.
I’m proud of her and everything she achieves but can’t accept sleeping with clients is still a “thing” in 2021 – or is that just me being naïve?
I ask her if everyone else at her firm offers sexual services too and she throws her head back and mutters: “You have no idea what goes down”.
I know I must seem very boring to her. My job with a high street building society isn’t exactly Wall Street, but I think I have my morals and priorities in
order. How do I make her understand I don’t like the way she operates? Of course I’m looking forward to the trips to Los Angeles, St Barts and Switzerland she’s planning to organise for the two of us, but at what price?
She tells me I don’t need to worry about my sexual health because she has regular checkups. She says I need to learn how to switch off my brain when she goes to work because everything she does, she does for us. But that’s easier said than done.
JANE SAYS: I get the impression you’re struggling to reconcile the woman you see
before you every day with the powerhouse who charges out to work and does whatever (she feels) is necessary in order to seal a deal.
During the past year, at home, I suspect that you and she have enjoyed some gentle, peaceful times. But now she’s keen to hit the ground running and is still insisting sex is part of the game when it comes to hooking big spenders.
I’m not naïve enough to believe the world of commerce is squeaky clean, and clearly you’re not either, but surely she crosses a line every time
she closes a hotel door behind her?
I can’t believe the promise of trips to LA and the like are much consolation.
Is it time to tell her how you feel and ask her to change the way she operates? Would that be a problem for her? What about her personal safety and self-respect?
If she wouldn’t be able to hit her targets without offering sex, is she actually in the wrong industry and due a change?
Tell her how you feel, but if she decides not to row back, do you stick around?