Slapper pal is now a laughing stock
IT’S TIME FOR BIG CHANGE
MY friend sleeps with anyone. She thinks it makes her look edgy and popular – but people are laughing about her behind her back.
We’ve been best mates since primary school.
We dated briefly in sixth form, but now I’m married with kids and she’s still playing the field.
My wife tolerates the fact that my best mate is a girl.
To be fair, my wife is very good with her and often has her here for Christmas.
We both agree that my mate can’t go on like this forever. From sordid affairs with married men to one-night stands with strangers, she acts like a groupie.
Comedy
She’s slept with virtually every bloke we ever went to school with and is now working her way through the large corporation she works for.
Once, on a group holiday to Ibiza she had five waiters, three reps, two taxi drivers and a DJ.
It was like a comedy show. The rest of us used to sit on the beach taking bets on who she’d rugby tackle to the ground next.
It was one thing playing this game when she was young and silly, but she’s looking increasingly tragic and sad.
She’s not even that young any
more. She has no idea that people have various (unflattering) nicknames for her. She doesn’t realise that any time she boasts about another crazy night of passion, that folk scoff and judge.
Several old mates have quietly dropped her in recent times.
Even my own brother now admits that she disgusts him and they used to be really close.
I’ve tried to beg her to rein it is. I’ve dropped several hints. I care for her very deeply, I worry about her health but don’t know what more I can do to protect her.
JANE SAYS: Clearly hints are not enough. Your friend is
deluded if she still thinks that sleeping around is somehow cool or appropriate in this day and age.
Take the time to level with her. Sit her down and explain that you can’t sit back while she continues to burn the candle at both ends.
Why does she behave the way she does?
Does she lack self-confidence or self-worth?
Doesn’t she feel that she deserves stability and a love of her own?
Ask her how you could help her to put her life into some kind or order. If she feels in
she’s lost her way, or there are issues from her past that are unresolved, then she has to hear that you, and your wife, are there for her.
If she’s putting on an act because she’s actually dying inside, then she has to hear that she can trust you.
You could help her to get professional help.
Of course there’s every possibility that she’ll be embarrassed and bawl at you for sticking your nose in.
But doing nothing can’t be an option when the world around her is changing at such a rapid pace.