Lying cheat of a sis is real trouble
I WON’T LET HER NEAR ME
MY sister has ruined her own life and now assumes she can gatecrash mine.
She’s just lost yet another job for lying, stealing and having a go at the management.
She’s talking about selling her city flat and buying a wreck in the village I call home. I’m seething. I don’t want her down here.
She gushes that we can bond over cream teas and cider and set up a business together.
How dare she assume that I’ll introduce her to my friends and business contacts. She’s toxic.
Burnt
She might be my flesh and blood but this is a woman who cannot behave herself or be trusted. She’ll have slept with half the men in the neighbourhood by Christmas.
She’ll have hacked off the women and caused a riot.
The only reason she’s leaving the city is because she’s burnt every bridge within a 100-mile radius. She is a woman who deliberately targets married men for a laugh, rips off best mates and dates bad boys for kicks.
Growing up with her was a nightmare because she never believed that the normal rules applied but expected me to pick up the pieces. Well, not this time.
But how do I tell her when this
is a free country and, I suppose, she can move where she likes?
My new boyfriend says I’m being mean. He huffs that everyone is entitled to a fresh start. But he doesn’t know her like I do.
And I can guarantee that he will be the first one on her list of new conquests.
JANE SAYS You can’t physically ban your sister from moving into your neighbourhood but you can tell her that you won’t be offering anything like a warm welcome.
You have managed to carve yourself out a good life in a decent location. Nothing
gives her the right to crash your routines or drag your name into the dirt.
Would she even know about this village if you didn’t live there? What about all the other places dotted around the country that could provide the fresh start she’s looking for?
Has she actually done any research beyond sticking a pin in a map and muttering, “that’ll do”?
If she’s lost, then what does she want to do with her life? Is she able to see where she’s made mistakes in the past? Is she willing to learn
from them? Arrange to visit her or speak to her on the phone and offer her your time and attention.
Why does she keep making a hash of things? Would she benefit from professional counselling?
I believe you’ve got to be strong. Tell her that she’ll always be your sister but she can’t simply assume that you’ll always be around to pick up the pieces.
When is she going to start taking responsibility for her actions? When is she going to grow up and start giving herself a break?