Kinky threesome was romp too far
SICK OF HIS SEX ORDERS
I’M sick of being my boyfriend’s all-singing, alldancing showgirl.
He is a highly sexed man who expects a sizzling performance every night.
If I don’t sashay into the bedroom in full make-up, suspenders and high heels, he accuses me of allowing my standards to slip. I feel I’ve made a rod for my own back.
In the few months we’ve been together I’ve danced naked for him, introduced naughty alteregos, bought pricey sex toys and indulged his every (kinky) whim.
Filmed
Recently he suggested bringing another woman into our bed for a threesome. I was so keen to appear cool, that I said: “Great.”
The next day he turned up with a sex worker who was very nice and very professional. But, as he filmed us wrestling on the floor I had to ask myself: “What on Earth am I doing here?”
As the woman left he tried to pay her with a card, but she said she only took cash. He looked at me and I ended up forking out £300 from my emergency fund.
He’s still not paid me back nor made any mention of doing so. Instead, he keeps banging on about how he wants to do it all over again with TWO working
girls. Apparently, I could organise it for his birthday in August.
The guy is wealthy and wellconnected with a great apartment. I’m keen to impress him because we could have a good life together. But I don’t know how much longer I can keep up this level of enthusiasm.
I do like sex and having fun, but he’s never actually said he loves me and I’ve still not met any of his family or friends. How do I slow this all down?
JANE SAYS: I suspect this guy feels he’s died and gone to Heaven.
You are trying too hard.
Stop it! Calm down and let him woo and please you for a change. How will he ever appreciate you when you do everything he asks and more? Where is the mystery and the self-respect?
He only has to snap his fingers and you’ll come cancanning in like a demented musical act. Why should he feel inclined to impress or indulge you when you don’t seem to respect yourself?
Give yourself some time out to think and chill. If he’s bothered or concerned, he’ll check in, bring you thoughtful gifts and ask you what’s
really wrong. If he doesn’t, then you’ll know exactly where you stand. I don’t necessarily think you’re dating a bad guy, but the current arrangement is unbalanced.
He has to hear that you feel overused and disrespected.
Are you going to get your £300 back – or even half of that? Why haven’t you met his family and friends and where is this relationship headed?
I strongly suspect he’d admire you for standing up for yourself and showing a bit of grit because sex can be loving and gentle too.