Cheat girl’s romps with an older guy
OUR SEX LIFE WAS SO GOOD
MY girlfriend has started another affair and I can’t cope with the humiliation.
She’s currently seeing a man she will not give up. She stays with him twice a week and they go on breaks and holidays.
It tears me in two imagining them naked together.
She’s a highly-sexed and imaginative woman who enjoys role play and sex toys.
She demands satisfaction any time we’re together and regularly leaves me in a sweaty mess.
Flings
So how she has the energy for another lover beats me.
Apparently, he’s a lot older than both of us, which just makes me feel even worse. I’m a fit and healthy 32-year-old. I could get any girl at my work. How can she stand to flit from my bed to his?
She says it’s complicated. She can’t just walk away because he has a lot of issues and it “wouldn’t be fair” to leave him high and dry. But how is any of this is fair on me?
During the three on/off years we’ve been together she’s had numerous lovers and one-night stands and I don’t know how much more I can cope with.
Her flings never end well with irate wives and lovers frequently banging on her door. I call her an
attention-seeker and a drama queen and she loves it – they’re labels she revels in.
She likes the idea that she’s a rebellious, wild child who refuses to play by the rules. That’s all very well, but how does her behaviour make me look?
JANE SAYS: Is your girl being bankrolled by this older man?
Does she rely on him for free holidays, meals out and favours because she likes him or because she’s greedy and self-entitled?
I get the impression she acts selfishly and constantly runs rings around you because
she can. For the past three years she’s tested your patience by sleeping with other guys.
She thinks she can do anything she likes because there are never consequences.
You may tell her that you’re hurting and upset, but that’s not enough to stop her playing the field.
What is it that you want from a relationship and from life in general?
If you crave love, loyalty, and commitment then you’re with the wrong person. What about your sexual and mental health? I’m sure that, on a
good day, your girlfriend is loving and exciting.
But there are far too many bad days when you’re left alone and angry.
Why do you persevere with someone who thinks so little of you that she continues to humiliate you on a regular basis?
Make a stand today and tell her that you’re done with being sidelined and begin the task of scraping your selfrespect off the floor.
What other choice do you have? You certainly can’t contemplate another three years of misery.