My girl sets me up with other women
SAYS IT’S MASSIVE TURN-ON
MY partner likes me to sleep with other women.
She says it keeps our relationship exciting and fresh. But is this healthy?
Her relaxed attitude towards sex is bizarre and isn’t something I’ve ever come across before.
She’ll casually mention that a colleague of hers fancies me and deliberately pushes us together.
She sets up a drink in our flat and goes and stays with her sister for the night. I’m left to entertain this gushing friend and then my girl wants to hear all about it in the morning.
Odd
The resulting “get-back-together” sex is off the scale and I have to recreate every little detail of the night before. She really loves it. It’s nice, but it is odd…
The other thing she does is find attractive strangers for me to bed. She goes online and handpicks obvious players.
She never joins in. She’s not interested in threesomes – or even other guys – but she is hugely turned on by the idea of me with other women.
I was brought up in a very strait-laced, church-going family. But her parents slept around and never bothered about rules or conventions.
She argues that “thinking out
side the box” is her normal and that she’s so generous and freespirited. But, sometimes, I’m pleasuring a stranger and suddenly ask myself who I am and what I’m doing there.
Mates say I’m the luckiest guy in the world, but am I?
JANE SAYS: Make-up sex can be exciting and raw, but it sounds as if your girl is hooked on her own invention: “Morning after sex.”
She gets turned on by the thought of you being intimate with other lovers.
Keeping things fresh and interesting in a relationship is
a good idea, but is she guilty of taking things too far? Is this situation healthy?
I’m not sure it is. For a start, you don’t really have a hand in her plans or know where you stand.
One minute you’re getting on with your life, the next you’re being packed off to sleep with a stranger.
I’m sure that your friends, who probably don’t know the whole story, think you’ve got it made. But what about your sexual health, love and your self-respect?
You and your girl are supposed to be in a committed
relationship, yet she gets her kicks from pushing you around and you don’t seem to have much of a say.
In this life we have to stop and take stock when something doesn’t seem right.
What would her reaction be if you told her you don’t ever wish to sleep with anyone else again? Would that be a relationship-breaker as far as she’s concerned?
Ask her where this is going because you are clearly exhausted and confused.
Would she benefit from counselling regarding her chaotic early life?