Just a sucker for my racy bad boy
BUT HE’S COSTING ME PALS
I’VE been dumped by three mates in the past year.
Now my childhood pal is questioning whether she can stick with me.
The problem is that no-one can stomach my husband. They don’t like the way he treats me and plays around.
During the eight years we’ve been together, he’s had numerous affairs and even more onenight stands.
He’s visited brothels and brought trouble to my door.
Forgive
I’m a sucker for a bad boy and, even though he breaks my heart and infuriates me, I continue to forgive him.
What choice do I have when I love the man and made wedding vows before God?
He may be exasperating but my passion for him has never waned. When we’re good (and speaking) we’re still as hot for each other as we were on our first night together.
He knows how to push my buttons and turn me on – and no sex toy in the world comes close to giving me the kind of mindblowing orgasms that he does.
My oldest friend accuses me of being addicted to him – that it’s not healthy. She’s probably right.
At work I’m a tough, no
nonsense businesswoman, I don’t take nonsense from anyone and earn a very good living.
Yet he only has to look at me and I’m putty in his hands. At the moment my mate is furious – she claims he tried it on with her while I was on a business trip.
He insists it was just a joke, but she’s saying it was the “final straw”. At this rate I’ll have noone left to hang out with.
How do I balance the need for my bloke with the tutting of my oh-so-judgy mates?
JANE SAYS: You’re clearly an extremely forgiving person – despite years of disappointment
and humiliation. The fact is that your marriage is unique – no-one really knows what goes on behind your closed doors and you’re entitled to find your own way.
But if your friend objected to your man coming on to her, then she’s entitled to speak out.
I suspect she’s kept her mouth shut over the years – to protect you and spare your blushes – but she’s finally had enough, and I don’t blame her. Who the heck does he think he is?
You go away on a business trip, and he pounces like a
sly fox. Thank goodness your mate has the courage and the voice to stand up for herself.
Whether or not you stay with your husband is entirely your choice. But you can’t expect your friends to sit back and say nothing about his behaviour when they can’t stand or respect him.
Maybe it will end up being just you and him. Is that acceptable to you?
Can you contemplate a life without mates – or is it finally time to rein him in and insist he changes, or leaves?
Your call.