I want to quit my hubby for his bro
GUILT AT SECRET AFFAIR
HOW can I dedicate myself to my marriage when I know that I’m with the wrong brother?
My delicious brother-in-law is the man I love, lust after and click with. He and I are two halves of the same soul and the secret hours we spend together in his flat are pure heaven.
He worships my body and has a way of making me feel totally gorgeous and alive.
Lonely
It’s not usual for us to make love three or four times in a row. We simply can’t get enough of each other.
I married my husband in haste in 2019. I was in a dark and lonely place after the sudden death of my parents.
My husband and I used to work together, and he was understanding and kind. One day he went down on one knee and asked me to marry him. I was completely floored but flattered.
He promised me company, comfort and a place to live. I clung to him like a raft.
Since our wedding, I’ve got to know his family better. His parents are OK, but his brother is the best man I’ve ever met.
He thinks we should run away together. He reckons my hus
band would get over it eventually. But I’m so guilty and feel so torn. My husband deserves better. He was there for me when I was on my knees, and this is how I repay him.
I feel sick to my stomach every time I lie that I’m off to see a friend or stay with a cousin when I’m running straight into the arms of his own flesh and blood.
But how can I pretend to be someone I’m not when the man I love is calling me to his side?
JANE SAYS: Your language is all very poetic and persuasive, but you’re not being fair.
The bottom line is that
you’re cheating and lying. Your husband helped and supported you during the worst period of your life, yet you’re repaying him by sleeping with his brother.
I get it that you like and lust after the man, but everything has to be done with kindness and in the right order.
You need to sober up and own this. Tell your lover you can no longer see him while you deal with your husband.
Sadly, if the reality is that you married him in a hurry – out of fear and desperation – then he’s entitled to hear that the marriage has no future.
There’s no doubt that he’ll be devastated and ask you to reconsider, which you must .
Think of the implications; the hurt and anger you’ll rain down on everyone from your husband to his family.
But, if you’re absolutely convinced that the union is loveless, unworkable and has no future, then you must split with your man before even thinking about moving on with anyone else.
Whether you end up with your brother-in-law is a matter for the future. But running away together would be cowardly and very childish.